While I am waiting for my wedding galleries to load so I may deliver them to my clients… I realized something.
I was sitting and watching each image I had captured for my Bride and Grooms. I watched how my style is coming to the place I want it to. I watched how I am venturing out to clients who have never heard of me till the moment they searched for a wedding photographer. I then realized I was making my dreams come true!
There was a moment when I NEVER thought I would be able to reach Brides. I would NEVER be able to capture one single wedding. NEVER in my wildest dreams did I see myself working with wedding vendors in my area. NEVER once did I imagine I would be recommended by other wedding photographer I admire in this industry. NEVER did I feel I was good enough to call myself a wedding photographer. And NEVER once did I see myself capturing weddings in such extravagant, stunning, destinations, and all around styles of Brides.
BUT… That’s the thing right there. I got tired of feeling like my NEVER was NEVER going to happen. That they were only dreams I would NEVER be able to reach.
I promised myself a year ago that I would force myself. I would PUSH myself in to an industry that I could say I am proud to be apart of. I would PUSH myself out of my comfort zone and become what I dream of becoming… A wedding photographer. In fact a destination wedding photographer.
I knew that if I kept telling myself I wouldn’t, I can’t, I’m just NOT good enough, NOT smart enough, NOT brave enough, and NOT worthy enough of potential Brides that would come my way, that I then would NEVER book Brides. I would NEVER reach my dreams. I was in fact stopping myself from my dreams.
So when I finally made myself STOP doubting. When I told myself to KEEP PUSHING FORWARD… I realized that in the end I would be that wedding photographer I had always dreamed of!
And now I look back… And I see the Brides I have now worked with. I see the Brides of 2016 and beyond. I see my venues getting bigger and brighter. I see myself working with more wedding venues that I see my mentors working with too. I see myself traveling to my Brides to capture their unique weddings. I SEE THE GREATNESS I WAS DREAMING OF!
I just had to get out of my own way!
I remember sitting up one night all by myself. I started to pray and ask God to help me in every way he could. Knowing that our Lord is mighty, and all we have to do is ask. I remember praying that all I wanted to do was book and capture 10 Brides. I didn’t care how long it took. If it had taken years to build a client base that would push me forward. Or if it took me years and years to do… I DID NOT CARE! I wanted this with all my heart. And I asked our Lord if this was what he wanted for me to PLEASE help me open doors to Brides who fit my style, love, and dreams of a wedding photographer.
It was so hard watching each email that went out and replied back had returned back with a NO. It was even harder when you had other photographers in the industry tell you, “Your just not good enough.”
But I kept my faith. I remembered all I had asked of our Lord. I worked each day and night. I didn’t care if a thousand emails went out unanswered or returned with a NO. I knew that soon ONE Bride would return a YES! I knew from there my work would just begin… And all I had to do from there was show future Brides what I was worth. And that I WAS the photographer they were looking for. I was their PERFECT fit for them.
And thankfully our Lord answered my prayers. I watched how each few emails that came back were full of YES. I watched how I was asked to travel to them. I watched how vendors were searching for me. I watched how my fellow photographers I admire dearly were giving my name to the Brides they had to turn away. I watched how clients found me on their very own.
I watched how my wedding dreams were coming true!
You see I write this for my fellow photographers who think they CAN’T, they aren’t good enough, or that they will never be in the wedding industry.
YOU my dear friend! YOU CAN DO THIS TOO !!! You CAN be that photographer. YOU can show the wedding industry and fellow potential Brides that YOU are the photographer they NEED AND WANT!
All you have to do it get out of your own way! PUSH forward and DREAM BIG! Work hard and show the world you are what you know you are. You are the photographer you have always dreamed of being. It make take years. It may even only take a few months. But you CAN and you WILL get there. Just have faith. Reach out to those around you. DON’T let those thousands of NO replies stop you from finding that YES. We all have to start somewhere. It’s just that some of us may have to work harder for our dreams.
But you know what? It’s the harder that makes it GREAT!
Just like Tom Hanks from ‘A League of Their Own’ said…
“It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard… is what makes it great.” -Jimmy Dugan
SO MY DEAR FRIEND… DON’T GIVE UP! TRY, PUSH, NEVER GIVE UP, DREAM BIG, AND MAKE SURE TO GET THE HELL OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY… BECAUSE YOU CAN DO THIS TOO! YOU ARE ONLY STOPPING YOURSELF!